Spinning plates eventually come crashing down

Last night saw me hit a wall and crash. Things have been building up and my ‘mask’ has been coming out more and more. Finally my mask broke and I broke. There is just so much going on in my head that I felt like I was going to explode.

It was tipped over when William recently had his annual EHCP review – lots of pre-reading/reviewing then a 2 hour online meeting with school last week with teachers & Matt, then the final report with assessments. Although I know he is improving in himself, it just sends that smack in the face highlight of how different (english & maths) he is to his peers. And, it is upsetting. And there is nothing more we can do than we are doing already. But, I am trying and always searching for how I can help him more, what further interventions are there.

This is the thing, I cannot save his life, I cannot find a miracle cure – I will try my hardest to raise funding for research but I am no scientist. I can educate myself about Duchenne and the effects it has on my son – and the more I do that the more I look for further interventions to try to make his quality of life better. The more I look into interventions, research and therapies – the more my inbox fills, my to do list grows and my anxiety grows. I want to do my best by him but I feel a little overwhelmed. Obviously, Covid has not helped – we have not had hydro/swimming/horse riding for a year and he suffers because of this.

We had a chat, I unloaded, we are a good team – but what with my work pressures being ever more over the past 8 months, the house to run, a family to love, a need to have my own time/space and a disabled child – I needed to offload emotionally and also physically hand over. I am not a ‘superwoman’, I am just a mum juggling that bit more than your ‘average’ mum.

Just when you think you are getting there, talking about it, seeing a friend to have a chat. I pick up William and he collapses in front of my eyes when walking out of the class door. In front of everyone. In tears. Tough mask on again, scoop him up, cuddle him lots, put him in his chair and walk off…..the mask doesn’t stay on for long, I am only human and it is breaking my heart.

I will forever keep going to support my little family, through good days and bad but as things really have started to ramp up with William’s support and care, I NEED to share more and more and accept that the plates will crash if I do it all on my own.

#duchennemusculardystrophy #sendmummy #sendparent #juggling #defendingwilliamagainstduchenne

8 thoughts on “Spinning plates eventually come crashing down

  1. Oh Jo, my heart goes out to you and Matt. No matter how we try to dress things up, this is a heart wrenching, devastating journey we are all on. To watch on helplessly as our little ones bravely try to keep up with their peers and keep the smiles on their faces often brings me to tears. Duchenne is beyond cruel, it is evil and unfair and impacts greatly on everyone close to those affected. Like my Katy you are an amazing mummy but you are also human. So have a bloody good cry whenever you feel the need, it’ll only make you stronger afterwards! Thinking of you all and sending love 💙💪🏼💙 xx

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    1. Thank you Sue, I know you really feel it for Katy as my mum does for me. It is tough. Definitely a cry helps to let it out and start again. Sending love back to you all xx

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  2. Hey lovely, sending huge hugs, I know that isn’t going to help or take any of it away but sending up prayers. A good friend of mine said once, life is plate juggling and sometimes you do just have to put some away in the cupboard for another day. That isn’t failure, thats showing an amazing internal strength and knowledge of you and your family xxxx

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  3. Dear Jo – if William’s problems weren’t enough for you, this pandemic has tested all of us. None of us can have a good night out letting off steam with friends and having a good belly laugh. That would make us all feel better. Keep going Jo – there will be better days – not necessarily the best but there are so many people willing to help – make sure you ask. We should ask you too what help you need. Take care. X

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    1. Thank you Marilyn, yes sometimes the asking is actually the hard thing to do, being nudged and offers are then easier to respond too. A girlie night out is definitely needed. xx

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  4. Jo – you are an incredible Mummy and wife – I have no idea how you keep it altogether – I just wish we could all do more – all I can do is send prayers positivity and a promise of post pandemic drinks – allow some of those plates to drop – you will never drop the most important ones – lots of love and hugs xx

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